Sorry you find yourself here I can definitely relate to your pain and confusion It is very hard to decide which tactics to follow and it hurts so much to be friends with the man you are M too and knowing he has OW It takes time to figure it all out Cadet has some great resources read as much as you can focus on u get a couselor, if you dont have one this journey can be used for your good your growth unfortunately, our H have to go to figure it out many of them get OWs to help ease the pain many of them may spiral down in their lives cover yourself..cover your finances do not trust anything he says or does maybe seek legal guidence just to know your rights many mlcer will overspend, using all the saving and creating debt
My suggestions are : If you feel uncomfortable, set boundries you do not have to be his confidant you do not have to be his friend cordial is enough spend all your energy on you and your daughter You didnt create the MLC and you cant cure him now
exercise read sleep eat get with friends who understand and can support you join a support group pray the pain lightens and as you will read most LBS seem to find their way they change for the better our lives become good again with or without the mlcer the journey becomes a blessing- hang in peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
