Kaboom

[girlfromipanema]

If you are going to meet up with her, I wonder if you could ask this OW to ante up a portion of the therapy to heal your marriage, since she ante'd up her share to chip away at it.

I hope you are finding some joy with the Christmas season on us.

This may be false pride, but I do not want a thing from OW. I've already packed up all the gifts she's given me throughout the years. I haven't yet decided what to do with them, but out of my house and out of my life they go.

The only thing I want from her is for her to cultivate some sympathy, compassion, regret for what she has done to her boyfriend. His first wife did the exact same thing - cheated with one of his friends. I feel bad for him and OW treats him like a piece of garbage; at least my husband has been loving and kind to me (even if it wasn't sincere). She berates, belittles, and emasculates her BF every chance she gets. I know he is responsible for allowing that to happen, but he's scared. He's 70 years old. He doesn't have a lot going for him and I feel she helped rip him to shreds and reduce him to what he is today. Sadly, he doesn't take steps to improve himself, but it still bothers me that she's hurt him so deeply. No one deserves that treatment.

I will find some joy this Christmas. I still have so much beauty in my life - lovely friends (I reconnected with my best friend after a long absence from each other's life this year!), and people who truly care about me and tell me how special I am every day. Thank you, SG for following along on my journey and providing feedback and support. I appreciate your perspective and kindness beyond words.