Won't let me edit...but I want to add that OW #1 was about as UGLY as they come and I am not just saying that, every single person who saw her thought she just hidious!! I was never sure if that was suppose to make me feel better or worse...why and how could he leave me for that?? How could he rather wake up to her than me each morning? I still have no clue, cause she is a very, very ugly woman inside and out!! OW #2 is pretty on the outside, very fake, has fake boobs, is tan all the time...but she is 33 years old and looks 45 because of it! And, she is about as UGLY as they come on the inside...she lost custoday of her 13 yr old daughter because she has so many men in and out of her bed the D13 went to the conselor at school and said she could hear her mom having sex with different men in the bedroom next to her's and she was grossed out about it, she was leaving the D13 and D4 (from another marrige, yep, married twice with kids from both and D'd twice before 31!!) home alone overnight to go be with different men. She is a known prostitute, my XH has told people that and was still dating her...honestly...they are seeking to take the pain away with ANYONE BESIDES US WHO WILL DO IT FOR THEM!! It can't be us because in their minds we are the cause of all the pain. Mine tells me everytime we get into it that all would have been perfect in his life had I not taken the kids away from him (moved away to survive and have a job because of what HE did!!) and he never, ever says a word about how my moving away was a reaction to his action to leave us for another woman and demand a D that I didn't want!! So, my take is that they can only be with woman who are just as bad or worse and have done the same things they have, cause a "normal" woman would make them feel bad and never accept them, so regardless of looks they have to find one that has sunk to the same low levels of life that they have!!

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Me-40
XH-44
T-21
M-18
Div-19 mo.
D-18,S-15,D-11
Bomb-7/07 EA,PA
Mvd out-9/07-to give me space
mvd back-12/07
mvd out-7/08
back with OW since 2/08
OW broke it off-1/10
in and out of tunnel and our life since!!