OMG...Kissak your H sounds so much like my XH!! We have never stopped a physical relationship thru everything..him being with and leaving me for OW #1, cheated on her the whole time and even when we moved away and he came up here to visit he cheated on her and I told her and then I was to blame for him cheating and such..then, we started working towards a relationship and OW #2 came along and I had no clue about her, he came up here and was with me 3 times before I found out forsure about her, she found out on her own and contacted me saying she was breaking up with him, but went back to him without me knowing it as I was again building a relationship with him..THEY ARE NUTS!! My XH is coming up for Christmas and was going to stay with us as usual and then I found out he was seen with the OW #2 again and told him "no" he went nuts, said they are just friends, blah, blah, blah...I held my ground, more nuts...then I finally for the kids said he could come, he said he would stay at a hotel, I said "cool", he then emailed begging to stay with us...it is a game they play...read this thread...
It says it all and will help you a lot!! I am determined not to allow this game of pursuit and distance to continue. I am done! It is so hard with the kids and the OW's!! I have put my foot down and gone nuts that they are not to be in my kids lives at all (we live 700 miles away, but D17 has been living with him and he has allowed this horrible woman into her life..both is OW's lost custoday of their kids or gave them up willingly, they are complete wh**es!!)
I forget what someone put on here about how they (the MLC'er) will seek anything that makes them feel good and take away the pain, and that is exactly right, and they don't care who they are hurting or what is happening around them, it is all about them and making the pain stop for even a moment. We have so much in common and I know the pain you are in is so overwhelming!
I agree about not talking to the husband of that OW, I have done that too and it makes your life more miserable. The things they tell you will do you no good at all and only make it worse. Snodderly is 100% right!!
Hang in there, and stand your ground, read the above link too.
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Me-40 XH-44 T-21 M-18 Div-19 mo. D-18,S-15,D-11 Bomb-7/07 EA,PA Mvd out-9/07-to give me space mvd back-12/07 mvd out-7/08 back with OW since 2/08 OW broke it off-1/10 in and out of tunnel and our life since!!
