I believe your choice reflects more of who YOU are.
Beyond your immediate circle family, friends; people you trust and respect, the only other person who's opinion should matter is the one looking back at you from a mirror.
Exactly. Even your immediate circle will mostly or at least in the end take the lead from you.
And you will probably change your mind a few times and various people will jump on either side of that bandwagon, and may stick to it even when you change your mind. But you are the only one who will live with your decisions day in and day out.
It's funny because I'm not in your situation, but I think you write what you're going through well, because I can 'feel' a lot of emotion myself reading it.
If you are going to meet up with her, I wonder if you could ask this OW to ante up a portion of the therapy to heal your marriage, since she ante'd up her share to chip away at it.
I hope you are finding some joy with the Christmas season on us.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
