Yep.
H asks me to do things as well.
Yep
H asked me about the Xmas cards to our friends and family.
Yep
Don't think ow is thrilled that H is spending Xmas eve, Xmas day and Xmas night here. care factor - ZERO.
Yep
He wants me in his life
Yep
H seems to think that we will be one big happy family.

NO
the New Year will see a change only a couple of small ones but they will make a BIG impact on the sitch I am in.

And he will have to live with it.