Here I go. Possibly too late.

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I'm so sorry, coldwinds. I've had an awful lot of loss in my life too, and it never gets easier.

You know, if you want to go to his family's just go. And enjoy it--embrace the love.

I came to this board two relationships after my divorce. The first relationship after my divorce with with a man who became my brother. His daughters became like daughters or nieces to me, our daughters were best friends in kindergarten. His exW had problems, but I came to love her as a friend too. He died 5 years ago of melanoma. We are all still 'family.

Life and relationships are complicated/messy. If he has to be disconnected, keep the connections you have. It's love. It all comes full circle. Don't sweat the details.

I am thankful and I love that 'the coach' (not to be confused with Coach or the DB coaches' on the board) isn't remotely jealous, has a wonderfully open heart and can embrace all of this. He's a good man.

I don't think you have to think about it too much. Just be in the present. Try to be happy.

I'm praying for you.