You might want to consider a DB counselor and you wouldn't get so much conflicting advice. IMHO, you need to pull back and do not "reach out" to him b/c that is pursuing. A WAS doesn't respond well to pursuing.

I'm glad you have family near by. You need to be with people who support & love you. Let them cheer you up as much as they can.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!