G, Please keep in mind that these mlcers will choose the path of least resistance. If you put too much pressure on him, he'll run as fast and as hard as he can...divorce being one way to get you to step back.
I hope that I am wrong, but I don't think your h will stop the divorce. If he wanted to do that, he would have done it a while ago. Sometimes, they are paralyzed and can't do a darn thing once the ball has started rolling down the hill. I think that in the back of their minds that if we get disgusted enough, we'll go ahead and do the work. That way they can say that they stalled or didn't do anything, but we pushed it ahead and made them do it. Again, projectng at its finest and putting the blame on us.
Yes, I am divorced. I believe in marriage, but there was far too much damage from my xh's mlc for me to ever consider taking him back even if he were to even ask.
Good luck!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
