Am I piecing? Just can't tell 2...

[Sad_but_happy]

Old link:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2112822&page=13

Well, seems my thread was locked so here is thread 2...

Where I left off:
Question... And this is going to sound nutty!

I went to a phychic about two weeks ago. Let me just state that I don't believe in that stuff but he was right on about many things going on in my life... Did it as a 180 cause I always told W it was crap.

He told me that I should arrainge a wine toast for my W and I for tonight. The reason is because its the Winter Solstice (the true last day of the year). He stated we should toast to leaving all our difficulties and trials behind (in the now gone year) and look forward to new years and new adventures ahead. kind of a cleansing...

He also said I should have a small gift for her. I was thinking one of those beaded memory braclets.

Now again, I don't believe in that crap but I don't see how it could hurt... Unless it is seen as smoothering or needy (this DB stuff really makes you think twice).

Is it a good idea or no? I will not bring up R...


Update,
Last night went great. After the toast we spent three hours in bed talking about everything including R. then we started reading about M and she stated, "it's a good thing that I stopped and thought about what I was doing before acting on my emotions (i.e. leaving me for her EA)."

We will need to rebuild our love, trust and affection but that will come in time. She seems so happy and grounded. I believe she still misses OM but far less then before. I know she loves her home and her life. We really lost our way, stopped doing nice things for each other and grew apart. this experiance makes you realize what you have and to never take it for granted.

Thanks to all that have helped me through this. I know I came off as angry or defensive at times but with the flood of emotions that this sitch creates it's hard to stay even keel.

I am convinced we are piecing but will stay here for now, continue to read and learn and hopefully gain more advice.