What you need to feel secure is simply...what you need, do not be afraid to tell him what you need, you cannot afford to be afraid, it simply is; what you require of him to prove himself.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK