yes, but the outcome isn't good. well, it depends on how you look at it.
i had to detach to protect myself from the verbal/mental/emotional abuse. physically separating was needed because it does hurt to watch the person you let your guard down for .. mutilate you that way.
the time apart is used to work on yourself. i certainly did. i grew as a person. i am stronger in some areas. and i didn't try to find the person my h originally fell in love with. the person i am now is better than the original me. i'm wiser. and less tolerant.
which brings me to my next point. yes, you can deflect the WAS venom but at some point, eventually you get tired of even doing that .. you don't need that in your life because it's just negativity. i'm less tolerant of CB now.
eventually you wake up and say .. i deserve better than this. detach as your way of saying "i love you but i'm not in love with you."
