When you ask for transparency, and your spouse agrees to it, how do you know you’ll get it? I certainly can’t take his word for it.
Oh no...absolutely not, you'd be a fool to just take his word for it.
If he agrees to it, that is a good sign.
But the better sign, is when you tell him that you are going to verify, or check up on him.
Ask for access to his phone email and such, let him know that while you want to trust him again, it is going to take time for that trust to build up. And when you are having a hard time trusting him you will snoop or look.
If he is looking to rebuild your trust, he might not like this, but he should be willing to understand your need and allow you this ability. Passwords and access and accountability. He should be willing to call you when he is late to reassure you.
Trust but verify.
Trust but verify.
If he is reassuring you, and understands your need for it, even better.
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