My Mom did not know she was terminal. She did not WANT to know. So she avoided asking "those" questions. I'm sure in her heart she knew but she wanted so much to live.
Although the days and weeks were long - it did give us some closure. Many people who Mom loved but hadn't seen for a while came to the hospital to visit with her and it meant the world. Better to pay your respects while someone is living than after.
My Mom chose to be in the hospital (we would have preferred she be at home), but once again - it was her choice so we went along with that. And when the time came - I think she had come to terms with it and anticipated her reunion with her parents and brothers. She was at peace.
I pray for God to give you the strength to get through this the best way possible. I also pray that your ex will step up to the plate and make things easier for you. Sometimes the worst situations bring out the best in all of us.
B.M. - I did not know that you had cancer. Your diet sounds good. I need to work on mine but I do start each day with oatmeal and berries. I know there is something positive going on. Hugs to you!
My Mom called and apparently the Surgeon is going to see Dad shortly. Mom told Dad to ask any questions he has. He's going to need time to process this before we all meet this afternoon. I called a friend at work and asked him to pass on the news. I called him rather than the boss because I consider him a friend, the boss is the boss. Some people from church called me last night and I called on back today. She said she'd pass on the news to the others. I felt rather pissed off at God last night while I was laying in bed. Why couldn't God have picked an easier way for Dad to die, why this? I thought of all the people we've prayed for at church who died anyway. What was the point of praying? Well, I know it's all part of grieving and God can take it! Anyway, I'm doing my laundry now...life goes on.
Oh, Wii. I am sorry to hear about this. Life is so cruel sometimes. I am glad you get to spend some time with him now. I am sure he is very happy to have you through this ordeal. Your father and family are in my prayers, Wii.
Thanks Sol. I just phoned my Dad and my Mom was there, she just finished telling him the bad news. He's devastated. I talked to him for a bit, cried with him and told him we would all be there with him through this for as long as it takes. He was crying and telling me how much he'd wanted to be around to see my girls get married. Life s*cks.
I am so sorry to hear this news Wii. Like you said, you will have the opportunities to be with him, tell him what you want to and everyone will have the chance to say their goodbyes. That really is a gift.
My heart goes out to you and your family.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Wii, my heart goes out to you. Take it one day at a time. Try not to look down the road at the 2 or 3 months, because that is hazy and the future is unwritten as yet. Now is what you have.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
BM, they now censor the word "s*cks"! Just got back from the hospital, I've been with Dad and Mom since 1 pm. The rest of the family arrived for the meeting with the surgeon. Basically, at this point Dad has to decide about Chemo but may add time to his life or it may not. Doctor said that if Dad tried it and the side effects were too severe he could stop it. We told Dad that we would support whatever he wanted. When I arrived this afternoon, we hugged and cried and Dad told me he was going to fight this all the way, he wasn't going to give up. He said he wasn't going to let his family down. He still had his sense of humour, he said "I don't remember any cancer in the family but the good gene must have dropped the ball and the bad gene got through, he's off my team!" When we left he was saying "I'm not giving up, I'll fight this with everything I've got" That's my Dad.
That's the kind of person I admire ... fight for your life. Not just give up. Your dad is my newest hero.
Take care, Wii. Still praying for you and your family.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
He's my hero too! Tonight I thought I'd do some present wrapping so I went to my closet and the first present I pulled out was to my Dad. I couldn't stop crying, I cried so hard I thought I'd break something. Finally, I wrapped his gift and cried some more. It was just the thought that this will probably be the last gift I ever give him. That was it for present wrapping tonight.
