wife preparing to leave me and kids

[sandi2]

But she says she is done with everyone. She wants to move away. She doesn't want to rely on anyone. Is this fog talk.

Yes, very much fog. When a person falls in love and things are done right, do they want to wash their hands of everyone and just leave the area? No. But, when a M person is having an A and knows she is doing wrong, hurting her family, and disappointing her relatives.....then she wants to escape reality.

From the stories I have read over the years, most of the A's have been more escape routes for people wanting to get away from their real world. Sounds crazy, I know. People have many ways of escaping reality for a couple of hours, and some ways can lead to very painful results.

I agree with Bluestar about starting the conversation with W. Don't suggest or ask if there's something she needs to tell you. You may not see that as pressure or pursuing, but it is to her. Plus, it's very hard to have one of those talks without some arguring.

Here's a 180:

When at home with your spouse, (if you usually start the conversation---then don't, wait for him/her) then, be rather scarce with your words, but don't sound rude or too short like you are mad. If your spouse asks what's wrong....just say "nothing" and have a pleasant expression on your face. Keep it short and simple. Don't get into an argument! Stay polite and don’t act like you are pouting. Use poise and class. This does not mean to act like you aren’t speaking, but don’t be overly talkative either.