Snodderly, I wish I could postpone the divorce but H is the one that filed 2 years ago it will be in Jan.
My lawyer told me that H would have to have his lawyer write a letter to mine saying that he wants to put it on hold for now.
I would like to thank everyone for the advice. I'm having a really bad day today, and last night I couldn't sleep. Just kept thinking over and over again about the D. H thinks that it is just a meeting on the 15th but it's not. If I don't send my proposal into my lawyer by the 7th since I contested the D H's lawyer will assign a Master from what my lawyer said and it will cost around $3000 each. And neither one of us have that kind of money.
I'm just so scared and don't even know where to begin. I guess I was in denial about the divorce ever going through. And I need to sell our home if that's what is going to take place. Because of the spousal support just starting on the 1st and ending when the divorce is final I won't be able to afford anything. I was getting money for waving my benefits at work at that's how I was living. And when H told me he was dropping me because of how much they went up I had no choice but to take him for spousal. Never in a million years did I think H's lawyer would bring up the divorce at the hearing for spousal.
I guess she is looking to push the divorce really fast now so this way H won't have to pay spousal for long at all.
I know I should be really detached by now and doing as well as all of you are but I'm not. After I read everyone's response I'm sitting here in tears at work.
