So now you have both sides of the story with the Dad being concerned about what is most important.. how the photo of his daughter will effect her safety.

It also illustrates how you have no control once the media steps in. And a journalist can adjust the facts to create a more interesting story. I saw it happen when the former spouse was included in a NYT business article. The quotes were correct, their intent the opposite in how the article was written.

And yes, the groom exhibits the same vacillating behavior as when he was married. "I did it, but I shouldn't have."

Emotional affairs start because of an inherent unhappiness, lack of communication between the spouses. I spent four years constantly suffering bouts of debilitating illnesses and injuries. Once he left those disappeared. In retrospect the stress of being married to someone who blamed me for his unhappiness depleted my immune system.

He tried at times as did I. But something broke and couldn't be fixed. If I knew then what I know now I would have initiated a separation and/or divorce when nothing worked. Folks usually want what they can't have. And his response would have said it all. If he wanted to stay he would have and done the work to make it happen. It would have been a joint effort. If he didn't he'd be gone. And everything would be out in the open. But I'd never break up the family.. never.

Yes, divorce destroys the family emotionally, financially. And the children take the brunt of it, especially when one parent disappears into the new relationship.

This couple continued their behavior on creating a buzz with their actions only on a grander scale, hurting those who were already in pain. Not the sharpest knives in the drawer when it comes to emotional maturity.

Perhaps I'm cynical. Perhaps I'm realistic with the end of a marriage. But at some point it's time to stop beating a dead horse. And that's usually when living life starts again. It doesn't change the tsunami of emotions and destruction. It's just rebuilding with a new foundation.