Sounds like she's uncomfortable being in "limbo." Same as my W. Mine even wanted to settle accounts and remain together as roommates for the kids. I told that's not going to happen. I'm not going to be her roomie, while she lives the single life. If you don't want the D then don't help her get the D. Make her do all the work.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."