So I talked with my W today about Christmas. She has given her computer to the kids and she thanked me for helping her to save face with the kids.
She said it means more to her then she can ever express to me, that i was willing to let the kids think she helped contribute to their christmas presents, and that I am picking her up Christmas morning so she can be there when the kids open up their presents.
I told her she was welcome and that it was the best present I could give to the kids.
Now here is a curve ball. The friends that have been running her back and forth to see the kids had me over for coffee. It seems that my W has been tallking to them about her and my situation.
She tells them that she is trying to find a job, but with out her license or car she is limited to where she can look. She is thinking of going back to school. She has no living expense with OM as his house was left to him from his grandparents, and he is such a bachelor, he brings home take out for dinner everynight. He doesnt ever give her any money, (not that i blame him) but he shares his smokes with her etc.
She has admitted she doesnt love him, she has feelings for him but thats it. She knows the relationship is doomed and going nowhere. He has no expectations of her, and she can stay at his home as long as she needs. He wont kick her out on the street.
She told her friend she loves me still, she likes to see the old me around so much these days. Her friend has known her all her life, looked at her and asked her what she was doing. To which my W replied, she doesnt know, she is confused and she misses her family. It kills her everyday to not see her kids.
Her friend told her that everyday that goes by her children grow further away from her etc. This is where i was floored. My W told her friend that she wants to have our family back together. But that she sees I am moving on with my life and she knows she has lost me. I wont take her back! She thinks I only do things for her so that the kids dont realize just what is going on. That i wouldnt take her back in a million years.
So what do I do now? Do I have a talk with her, keep it simple and just to tell her I would still like my family whole again?
