Oh, wii, I am so sorry to read this. I remember getting a similar diagnosis for my mother. She opted for the chemo and lived 18 months longer, most of which was very good quality of life for her. In a strange way, she became more alive and active, more engaged with others, after she was diagnosed. I wish I was closer to give you a real one, but please know that I'm sending cyber hugs to you and your family tonight...