@ericmsant2 If you had followed any of my posts, you'd know that I did my changing LONG before she dropped any bomb (unlike most of the men here) At the first hit of trouble, I went to a psychiatrist for meds with the full support of W and started IC long before the issue came to a head. So yeah, I was changing for me all along. I know my role in everything and work everyday to change that - again not just because I wanted to save the M. I'm sorry, but I don't put much faith in an invisible dude in the sky. I appreciate your thoughts. I think DB is a tactic, at least to start, I think the 7 principles of highly successful marriages is really good advice. I'm not really that "macho" or have too much "male" pride. Believe me. I post about 10% of what's really going on. I'm fully committed to my M and family. I don't mean to demean the DB process, but my wife is pretty smart (She has a Ph.D in psychology no less) She can easily see what I"m doing when I do some of the DB things. It's kinda funny actually.
@mj144 Oh I'm not cocky. I was just telling it like it is. My wife hasn't brought up D in probably 3 weeks and we've had our first to MC sessions.They went very well. I'm doing a chit load of work with everything. (see above) My W has acknowledge that things have improved greatly in the last 3 weeks. She now has a lot of hope that things can improve and I know she cares for me more than she did. The other stuff will take work. on both our parts. Honestly, I don't know what attitude you are talking about. I'm sorry that you having trouble, but I"m not your "bud."
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
