JTB - Thank you so much for your reply. I have been trying for days to get on here to get some advice and a little support. Just reading the threads gives me some relief.

I do NOT plan on telling wife that I got the DB Coach. I am planning on just writing in a card... "no gift this year for obvious reasons. Got OUR MARRIAGE something this year. I will tell you what it is/was someday". And simply sign my name without the word "love". What do you think?

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce