H talking D again.. after 3 mos. of piecing

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Yes, I agree what we are going through is part of normal marriage map. I have read and shared information about this with my H. He has very immature thinking when it comes to love. I wish he would see that this is just a stage and that we could get through it. We have so much in common and the same shared dreams and goals. It is sad he is walking away all because he doesn't feel the spark right now. He will end up regretting this later on. Last time he moved out he started missing me after 4 weeks. Does he not think that is going to happen again?!

He is sleeping in the basement now as I told him yesterday I was not going to be the one to move down there. If he wants D then he can go down there. He slept down there last night , but has not moved any of his personal items or clothing items down there.

I am not going to file for D, but if he does that is his choice. I am making plans to move on with my life without him in it. I don't want the D, but can't stop him if that is what he wants. This is the second time he has put me through this and I am tired of trying.

I have divorce remedy. Bought it over the summer when the original bomb was dropped. I have read it front to back several times.

At this point I am detaching. I am not going with him to his sister's for Christmas. I know if I go I will only be miserable. I am going instead to see my family by myself. That is where my support is and at this point I am making decisions that are best for me.

I know it probably sounds like I have given up and maybe I have. I am just tired of feeling the hurt and pain that he has caused me.