I've begun reading the same book, and I think you're headed in the right direction. Michele endorses Shirley Glass' and I'm learning quite a bit.
Jack--do you mean girl is now a desert_girl? Just asking.
girl-I have been around awhile, and I just haven't seen such sanity in the face of this much adversity, at least not in a long time. I admire you. I realize that you have a tough long road ahead.
But I do know that what you thought was true in these more recent times, were true--the love and fun you've had are real. It's just, complicated. I don't say that to diminish what you're going through, but just to support what you know you have between you.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001