XH is off his pedestal and I'm moving forward

[MHL]

GAG,

That is great!!!! Here’s a virtual high five backatcha!!!! I am glad that you stepped out of your comfort zone.

Your assessment of him not wanting to overstep his bounds as a “nice guy” is dead on accurate. He does not want to initiate because he would be “cheating” on his GF, additionally he does not want you to think that he thinks of you as a “fling”, or the kind of woman that would do that sort of thing.

Look he is probably realizing that he “effed” up but does not know a “nice” way getting back to what he once had. I truly believe that some of the WAS’s out there just figure that it is their punishment to live the rest of their lives with someone that is not their ideal mate because of the things they did in the past…..almost a martyr mentality. I believe this to be true of my STBXW, this is their fate and nothing can change it.

Jack was right…..your response about the work thing was perfect.

Relax…..

Be yourself……..

Don’t overanalyze things………

There is a pretty simple equation here………..your a girl……he’s a boy…..you guys are attracted to each other………..Do we really need a chalkboard here??????

Okay, next time you see him, make sure to give him that friendly “hello” hug, but either press your body into him or give him a peck on the cheek, remember this is just hello, so keep it “G” rated……he will be thinking about the goodbye kiss/hug the whole evening……could give you the advantage in TT????

During the game, continue with the innuendo and the visual stimulation…..you are now a master of flirting……the advice you are getting from the women here is great. Keep on that track.

When the time comes for the goodbye hug, that is when you need to “KISS” him!!!!! And I am not talking a soft gentle kiss……….be passionate…….he wants permission to be passionate back but he is afraid to ask or take the lead. You have to communicate non-verbally and very sexually that you are available to him. Give him a green light…….and he will take over…..trust me.

Once you get him all whipped up into a fine frothy mess, he will not be able to stop, then he will take over and you will be surprised at just how much he is holding back.

Stay away from the Book thing, the BMF thing, stay away from the past, LIVE IN THE MOMENT!!!!!

If you were out on a date with someone you just met, you would have no past with that person and you would bore them to tears talking about your past……..the same thing applies here.

I am very much looking forward to the next post-TT report……hopefully the report will come late…..like the next day and not that night………because hopefully you will be too busy!!!!!

Cheers