Good, When a person is in depression, their view of reality is all screwed up. They don't know what they want except for the pain to go away. Your h is a very confused individual and appears to be bouncing all over the place. Him asking you where you would like to go on vacation, well....it's just a safe topic of conversation....doesn't mean he'll want to go with you.
Some these individuals will appear to be coming out of the fog and the minute there is any type of pressure (or appears to be pressure to them) will go right back into the hole. I will be surprised if he stops the proceedings....sometimes divorcing is the only way to move forward for them. It takes the pressure off of them and it also makes us step back a notch or two.
My advice would be to sit tight and do not contact him. Get your documents together and if for some unknown reason he comes to his senses and stops the proceedings....we will all breathe a sign of relief. However, from what I have read of your posting, he still very confused about what he wants.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
