If he is still blaming me for his depression and pain then why is he saying he doesn't know if he wants the D or not? And why would he even bother with me as far as asking me to go out and things?
That's where I'm confused.
I agree with both of you as far as him thinking that his pain will go away, I think he thought that when he left and I also think he thought that when he filed 2 years ago for a D. He was mean and nasty, didn't contact me only to argue every couple of months.
But it just seems to me now that it has gotten to the point of the D going to go through unless he is the one to stop it, he seems to be coming out of the fog a little. He told his family that we were talking (big step), he probably hid it from them for a long time. And then his boys know that we went out the other night and that was something after the first year of separation that he said he would never ever do is go out with me again.
I really thought these were steps (baby steps) with him coming out of the fog, oh and he also was bringing up the good times when we talked instead like before he would only talk about the bad times. He even asked me where I would like to go on a vacation Wednesday night. He didn't say anything after I answered him but it seemed like he was finally wondering what I wanted after 2 years of him living his life like he wanted and I got stuck with all of the bills, kids, working 2 jobs, the house...everything.
He was even showing signs of jealousy for the first time again in 2 years.
So I guess I was wrong that the fog isn't lifting and he isn't coming around slowly. UGH
