Taking the Long Way #33

[kat727]

No he is vinegar type person. He is right period. I maybe made a little bit of headway. I explained to him that though the kids may "look" good, they are hurting still. They are fragile when it comes to the relationship with their Dad.

Ex's response was that they need to learn how to give here. Don't think he is getting that part. He hurt them in a big way and his answer is to get over it. Try and be the good time Dad. I mentioned to him that the girls told me that he doesn't cuddle with them, just hold them or do things with them, just the three of them. He says he is always there and available though. Not quite the same thing with girls.

I can't teach him how to be their Dad. I tried really hard to express their hurt and while he appreciated my telling him, he also feels as if I feed the pain. So again not what he is doing but what he thinks I must be doing to keep the kids hurting. ugh...his thinking is off.

I found out last night that S15 didn't even eat Thanksgiving while ex's wife and kids were there. Ex's response when I asked about it...well, that's his choice.

I did tell him that I thought he was jumping the gun. He needed to once again work on his own personal relationship with the kids before he even thinks of forcing his new family on them. He has never taken that one on one time. I really do try and stay out of this especially after he told me he didn't need my help about a year and a half ago. It really is his mess to clean up.

Maybe at least I can hand him the bucket.

kat