Fix me, fix my life, win back my wife

[ScaredinCanada]

Ok just got off the phone with my W, she called to tell me that she's has to work tonight (which I already knew) and to tell me about her night last night.

She said that her cousin is in really rough shape, was crying and saying that her mother thinks she should be locked up in a mental hospital, etc. Crappy stuff, and I agree she's always seemed strange to me.

The thing is they went to restaurant where my W works, which is slightly confusing to me because normally when the kids want to go there she isn't interested ("I work there, I don't want to go there to eat!") and they were gone for almost 6 hours.

I don't want to jump to conclusions but like I said before I do worry about an EA. I'm wondering if I shouldn't corner her mother tonight and ask her if there was any "odd" behavior? Probably not the right thing to do, and it will only make me angry if there was...

Also, even thought I worry about a possible EA (who wouldn't in similar sitch) I still believe the true EA would be with her married friend that owns a farm that she dated for a very short period when she was very young (well before we dated). I think she looks at where he is and wonders if she would be in that spot if she'd somehow stayed with him. I remember some time ago (I'm actually not positive, but I'm fairly certain it was just before the B) she came home and told me that he was contemplating buying a golf course and he was wondering if she might be interested in running the restuarant and possibly being a partner.

The location was going to be about an hour drive from our house, and she'd be away with this guy all the time - to me it sounded like a silly idea and one that would just get us in trouble - and I'm starting to wonder if this triggered the B.

This would probably be an example of her "never getting to make her own decisions"...lol

Maybe I'm grasping at straws and maybe it pointless to try and explain why the W becomes WA?!?!

Also, like I said in an earlier post when I took the girls out to the show and she says "So is this the way it's going to be, you taking the girls out on your own and me taking them out on my own?" I WANT TO TELL HER TO F HERSELF. She wanted space - needed space - wants to be away from me. I'm not staying away from the kids, she's welcome to come out with us.

I wish we could just sit down peacefully and go through issues, and try and understand that we have a workable sitch. From my perspective of her, the only way to fix it is to start over - which I just can't fathom.

She still hangs on so bitterly to the issues with my Mom, even though I've started to deal with them, she's said if and when I see you Mom I will tell her, "I will only speak to you when it's absolutely necessary, and since it's never absolutely necessary I will never speak to you again."

To be honest I haven't spoken to my mother in a couple weeks, and I hope everythings ok. Both times I have called I spoke to my father. Anyways, the next 2 weeks maybe the most difficult of my entire life. Christmas and my brothers wedding...