Need advice and support to keep hope

[Denver_2010]

IAP - that sounds like a good idea, I think. I have decided that I'm just going to do the same thing for my step son that I do every year, which is to buy a gift or 2 from me and then buy him a few things to be 'from santa'. I know that my wife is probably struggling financially to give him the type of xmas that we normally provide for him. I will get wife a card and let her know that I got US a gift (DB coach) and that I will tell her what it is/was someday when things are better.

Anyone know what they mean when they say 'lovingly detach'? I am trying to detach, which is very difficult, but to add the 'lovingly' to that idea makes it even more difficult... especially when you are having little to no contact with your WAW.