AntoniaB, I just spoke to my lawyer and he said that he feels that H doesn't know what he wants either and I did tell him when he asked if anything was new.....I told him that we were together Wed. night and Sat. night and Sat. was for a couple of hours. He said he had a feeling that we would end up seeing each other because H didn't look happy at all when his lawyer mentioned the D.
His advice was for me to get all the paper work together as far as all the bills in both of our names and just have it ready just in case and wait for H to call me and for me not to call him, and that he would love to see us reconcile. But not to call H because he probably will feel pressured. And if H does call then explain to him what is going on. My lawyer said that he doesn't think H really understands that this is making the D happen quicker but that it is H's lawyers fault for not explaining things to H. H has learning and comprehension problems.
As far as pursuing my H, I have not done that in a long time. Well, since March.....guess not that long, the last time we ML. I knew better this time then to push him this time. He actually pursued me these last couple of weeks. And before March I didn't pursue him then either. In the beginning of our S yes, I did all the wrong things....I pleaded and begged etc. but I didn't know about DBusting and found the site 5 months later.
H pursued me from the time we met till a couple of days before he left to go live with his father and step-mother and I had NO clue to what was going on.
I really thought I was seeing baby steps as far as him contacting me and asking me to go out. Now I'm confused.
