I am about to call it quits and move on ( WAS)

[Queen_of_Swords]

I have been working with Divorce Busting counsellors from about halfway through this ordeal. Before that we did Retrouvaille, and the Spouse walked after the third post recovery weekend session. So that was a waste of time, tears and energy.

I have done what I can, and done the 180. I have made a life for myself and our children the best that I can.

I have listed what I need/want from him ( as I've been told men like lists/goals). I have tried to engage him in what I'm learning.

He is a black hole. I throw stuff out, and it gets sucked in and nothing is returned, no response. He listens. That's all and not enough.

I haven't worn my wedding/engagement rings since my fingers got fat and they became too painful to wear. He's hardly ever worn his either due to the nature of his work, and then when his work situation changed he then took it off when he started bodybuilding about 10 years ago. The rings are stored. In fact I am considering giving them all back, seeing as he never intended to keep the promises they symbolize.

I have not read Divorce Recovery, only Divorce Busting and Keeping Love Alive.

As far as parenting, he gets to be fun Daddy, takes the kids out to movies and meals out. I'm just the work-a-day drone taking care of all other responsibilities.
Far as I am concerned he's not my friend. My friends don't treat me this way.

I want someone that actually LIKES who I am. Being tolerated is unbearable.