Sol - he sounds like he could be my ex. Wants to make himself feel better about what he's done, by reassuring himself that I am doing well, and by playing up how difficult this all is for him. (Somehow HE dumped ME after 24 years of marriage and HE has the beach apartment and the 31 year old Asian girlfriend, but he's convinced the kids how HE'S suffered through the divorce? Lol)
The truth is, though - they ARE suffering. Cuz they are messed up. And we are moving forward - living well is the best revenge.
I WILL say - you're young, if you don't have kids with him - don't look back. I took my husband back early in our marriage, and even though I would say we had many good years after that - I can see now he was never really 100% back in the marriage and I put up with way too much crap over the years out of fear of losing him. Now that he's gone - I'm playing drums in a rock band, have discovered other men LOVE those things about me that my ex bitched about, and my possibilities are wide open. I will never settle again for a man who isn't FLAT OUT CRAZY ABOUT ME. End of story.
