When my H came back from his fist visit to OW he was very quiet, and I did not ask him too much. Luckily, I had my first therapist appointment that week, and she told me to remember that I could not control my H actions, only mine, so I was able to concentrate on controlling my feelings. I asked my H in an even tone how his trip went, and he started to talk to me about it, and although every word was like a nail driven through my flesh, I listened carefully without getting angry. In the end, he told me that he was fully expecting me to hit him, and he was surprised I did not. He also said that it was more an more a complicated situation and that it would be really hard to imagine anything coming out of it. I don't know if my calmness had anything to do with it, but maybe if I got angry or hit him it would have been easier for him to say that we should D.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
