WAW dropped the bomb three month's ago (I discovered OM). Spent the first month doing all the wrong things (WAW moved out). I Found this site, read the books and have been DBing for past two months. WAW has been in pursuit for the last month, but still seeing OM. As of last week, I've taken the advice of members and started using the LRT.
WAW has been looking for any excuse to call, email, text, or come by the house. I've asked her to stop contacting me; it's too painful; I can't be her friend while she continues to have an affair with an OM. I haven't been answering her calls and haven't been home when she visits the house. I've given her no reason to contact me.
Yesterday, I was making some purchases at our local hardware store when she got in line behind me. She wanted to catch up on my life; she asked a lot of questions. I tried to keep my answers vague, but pleasant. She asked about my first appointment with IC, I told her that it was his opinion that I was accepting too much blame for the problems in our marriage and that he agreed with my need to detach from our unhealthy relationship.
She wanted to get some things from the house (rolling pin, bean masher and some protein powder). This seemed like an excuse to spend more time with me and it took over an hour, during which time she gave me some Christmas presents. She kept offering to help me with this or that, so I made it clear that I didn't need her help with anything; that I was fine on my own and preferred it that way.
She attempted to call me later, last night, so I unplugged the phone and went back to sleep.
Under these conditions, the LRT is a difficult thing to accomplish. I feel like a failure. I can't even go dark without screwing things up.
