XH is off his pedestal and I'm moving forward

[Sanderika]

Very Well Done, GAG!!!! WooooHoooo

You had a wonderful evening with XH!!!

QUOTE:
"so I got the distinct impression that XH will bring GF#2 to his mother's on Christmas Day but that he is willing to schedule their visit around my timetable"

I immediately thought that XH was thinking he could plan a visit to his M to coincide with your visit and the GF will not be with him.

QUOTE:
"XH then said "You were always working". The tone of XH's reply was not accusatory.....more wistful.............I think that this was a missed opportunity. I should have replied differently, but not sure exactly how. I probably should have said "Yes, I worked too much. So glad that I'm not living that way anymore."......Any other ideas out there for replies?"

The reply I come up with isn't very different:

"Yes, XH, I did work way too much back then and that is something I wish I had done differently. I have learned how important it is to make time for fun and that's exactly what I plan to do."

I agree with you that his comment was not accusatory or hostile. IMO these guys move on rather quickly. They live more in the moment thus the past is water under the bridge, on trivial issues anyway.

NOW, on the big issues....they don't let go or forgive quickly at all....that's a topic for another day.

The Elf Hat was a perfect way to bring about some fun laughs, remember it also will bring up fond memories of Christmases past with you.

Your tender kiss will make him think about you quite a bit. It is very interesting that he reciprocated. I believe he was accepting because he felt a "connection". It may have even been a "spark" he was feeling. Your PMA and approach with flirty fun has allowed XH to be open for this.

This is where you tread lightly and slowly. Be extra careful not to rush him. Always maintain loving tenderness with him. Look at him with a warm smiles, they speak in validating thoughts.

Your next encounter may be on Christmas, perhaps a Merry Christmas hug with an extra squeeze and a whisper in his ear like "Merry Christmas, XH, Thank You". See how he reciprocates and if he leads with a little kiss you can follow. Of course any contact will have to have perfect timing to be effective.

Since XH kissed you too, I think you have succeeded in leaving XH intrigued and wondering what this new found feeling means, and that is a good thing!!!

Have a wonderful week,

Sanderika