Just got back from playing TT with XH. VIRTUAL HIGH FIVE to Missherlove. I made a move and XH didn't freak out. To find out what happened, you'll have to read to the end.
XH must really enjoy playing TT with me because we had ~6 inches of snow this afternoon and evening rush hour was horrible!!!!! It took me 1 3/4 hours to travel 8 miles. Blech! XH had a very slow commute too, but still wanted to play TT. After we finished at 8pm, he still had to go home and snowblow his walks and driveway. XH has also begun playing racquetball again with his buddies (he is wearing a knee brace --- no surgery planned ).........so it is VERY interesting that he still wants to play with me regularly.
Before and during playing we talked about a lot of different things ---- friends and family. I had gone to visit his mother yesterday evening (we texted back and forth during the visit about some of her health issues). XH doesn't know it yet, but I had taken Christmas cards for his mother to send to XH and X-SIL. I had his mother write messages in both cards and address them. I will mail them tomorrow. I think XH and his sister will be surprised to receive them. ............Tonight I noticed that XH seemed as though he was trying to "hold back" in the way that a man holds back so that he isn't "unfaithful"......yet, he made comments that indicated he was thinking about my welfare. -----this was a bit unusual for him, since he has been pretty self-centered since the bomb ----- We talked at length about the 100 year old tree on my patio that I am trying figure out what to do with. XH also talked about some of his problems (roof leaking with the snow). XH asked me about my plans for Christmas and I told him I would like to visit his mother on Christmas Day. XH asked what time I wanted to visit and I told him. He thought a minute and said that would probably work............so I got the distinct impression that XH will bring GF#2 to his mother's on Christmas Day but that he is willing to schedule their visit around my timetable.........Interesting.
The evening was very chatty and friendly. I flirted throughout the game, but not as blatantly as last week ---- we were both too tired from the long commute ---- and I knew that I was planning a special move for the end of the evening.........
At one point I said to XH "You had a TT table in our garage. Why didn't we ever play TT?" We both looked at each other.....kind of puzzled for a bit...........Then I said "I don't remember you ever asking me to play with you". XH then said "You were always working". The tone of XH's reply was not accusatory.....more wistful.............I think that this was a missed opportunity. I should have replied differently, but not sure exactly how. I probably should have said "Yes, I worked too much. So glad that I'm not living that way anymore."......Any other ideas out there for replies?
When I arrived I had brought a Christmas gift bag for XH. (XH told me on the phone earlier that his sister had sent a gift for me.) At the end of the game I gave it to XH. inside I had put a funny Christmas elf hat (red and green striped felt pointy elf hat with big tan-colored pointy ears sewn on the side) that XH left behind at the house when he moved. XH laughed! I told him that I was giving him the hat to keep his head warm when he sits in his hot tub. He smiled and laughed.
We stood outside in the cold and snow for 15 minutes chatting before we finally got in our cars and drove away. I was wearing my fedora and teal scarf. XH didn't say anything about the fedora, but I caught him looking at the new scarf..........I had planned that I wanted to give XH a Christmas kiss on the lips at the end of the evening, so as we talked I was thinking about this. I pulled a box of mints out of my purse and offered XH one. He declined, but I took one. .........Then I leaned in and kissed XH on the lips. Just a sweet, soft, little kiss...........and XH reciprocated. Then he reached out to hug me and we hugged tightly for a short time............then we both got in our cars and drove away...........................so I'm thinking that Missherlove and everyone else who has encouraged me to make the first move are correct. High fives all the way around! XH seems to be receptive. Very interesting. Very interesting...............I have to say that in all the time I've known H/XH, I have never seen him kiss any of his "friends" on the lips. That is just not the kind of thing that he does.
I made a move and XH didn't freak out. To find out what happened, you'll have to read to the end. 
