Adulterous or taking accountability for their actions? Unlike many starry eyed departing spouses they fully acknowledged the the pain and devastation it would cause and took accountability. And one boomeranged between the conflict.. work to keep the nuclear family or follow his heart with no guarantees that it would work.
Is it right for the children, for themselves, for the vows they took with their perspective spouses? Or just being honest rather than sneaking out in the deep of the night.
After my travails, I figured if a spouse wanted to leave, the responsible thing to do is approach the problem directly, work through the issues with a professional. And in the end the departure is inevitable, at least you know both tried to the best of your ability. It's not a devastating surprise that gets worse with each passing moment. But most departing spouses can't or won't do it.
Are they celebrated or putting their flaws and choices out for public opinion? Perhaps the publicity is hurtful for the spouses and the family.. or maybe it was shared with consent of all parties. .
One of my best friends was married for 6 years to a man she loved, who was her best friend. She met a coworker who joked with her. One time they went out to dinner. After that meal, she was disturbed that she had so much fun with this man. She moved out of her home to think. Although she loved her husband he was a companion. They rarely saw each other. This other man was far different. It was a difficult decision (they had no children). To live with a man she liked versus one who brought out so much more. They just celebrated their 20th anniversary.
