Possibly the worst day of my life.

[Grocerykartman]

Always,

I never paid attention how to copy a person's quotes and pu them into the yellow boxes like so many do, so I simply copied some of your last post below and will respond to it.


Me "You were right too, we need to discuss the bills and how I will be able to visit the kids. Once you move out I want you to know that you will be welcome back in the house if you need a place to stay, but the man who's stuff I saw in the bathroom is not welcome."

W "My name is still on this house and legally i can come back wether u say i can or not."

Me "I understand how you feel. I have a legal right to the house as well. That man is not welcome in my home."


I think you're getting into too heavy a conversation over a text message. She asked what your plans were for Christmas, so I think you would have been best off just answering that question in a pleasant, upbeat way. Getting into the repeated stances of "that man is not welcome in my house" only shows her that if she contacts you with a simple logistical question, you will very shortly steer the conversation into your anger about OM. I would suspect this may only cause her to not want to initiate contact unless absolutely necessary if this is how it will be.

I would advise you to take that question about Christmas at face value and not read anything more into it. She may very well have simply just wanted to know what your plans were, so she could go about making her own work out too. Hard to say for sure, but even think about when relationships are going well this time of year, there is a lot of logistical planning. That couldve been why she asked. And although you say that there was a positive in that there was no divorce talk, she still said she hoped to be out by the end of the month, so I wouldn't look at that as a positive really.

I'm not saying any of this to put you into despair. It just comes across to me like she wanted simple information from you and you took the conversation in a different direction with an adverserial tone. I just don't see a lot of positives from this exchange. I tell you this only to keep you from getting your hopes up too high here.

I think your best bet is to see the dogs for whatever time you can, just be happy because it's Christmas and not sad because its Christmas and youre in this situation, and whatever you do, don't bring up the other guy again on Xmas. Let it go, for the sake of the day.

Hope you have a good holiday. Please take care.

GKM