I think its sad that the best you can come up with is that SBN never had an EA so he doesn't know.
Oh, that's not the best I can do! But, let it be known right now that I am not giving out any kind of defense for an A! I have tried to give help to those who would accept it, and if you don't like what I have to say then you don't have to read it. If you don't want to know how a WAW feels and thinks or why she may have been vulnerable to what took place,then don't listen to one.
Here's the thing, I have read where the WAW is called just about everything in the book. No matter how horrible the H treated her or for how long --it doesn't justify her having an EA. But....for SOME people that is the ONLY argument they have. She had an EA!
Don't take what I say as defense. I don't need defending. I don't even need to defend these WAW's who aren't here to tell us their side of the story.
All we have is the side of the person who shows up. Sometimes that person needs another POV. Do you think I spend my time here on this board for any other reason except to try and help people who is going through this hell?
You've only been here, what? A little over a month? Maybe you should know more about the person you are pointing fingers toward, or, maybe you just think you already know it all now. I didn't give that post to you, mister,I gave it to a young man I was trying to help see from another set of eyes.
I can tell when the LBH is angry and wants to use me and any other WAW as his target. I understand that. But, I won't fight with you or anyone else, b/c you aren't in the place to LEARN yet. Hopefully, you'll get there soon.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
