I'm back. Nothing good to report. We've discussed how to split assets. I've started looking for a house. W has paid a retainer to a lawyer (about a month ago). Some times she talks to me, other times she pretty much ignores me. Right now if I haven't talked to her for a while she seeks me out to say something. Some days are tough, others I feel I'm ready to move on. I'm trying to keep in mind that the Lord has something better for me and wants me to leave go. At this point it's in his hands. Thanks for all the help, I see now alot of mistakes I made. I'll keep you posted as to D-day.