Going slow is the plan so far. Just making sure that I am there for her and trying to help out as much as possible. I want her to see me as a steady support over a very hectic time of the year, someone she can count on and who is generous with his time and his support.
I want to make sure that I provide her with no negative thoughts that may sway her decision to the OM. I am spending extra time with the kids, her family and friends, all the things that the OM can't have access to. I want everyone including her to see that leaving our family would be a huge mistake.
Whether she chooses to stay or go is still her final decision, but I have a plan and a purpose, something that I know she doesn't have in place right now as she tries to deal with this through her emotional fog.
I have also developed a plan in case she does decide to leave. I have looked at our finances, living arrangements and custody options. Either way, I am ready to move forward and get on with a better life.
