The different path... Continued

[newmama]

Mystik--another way they %$*& up our lives is now we have to work harder to get our kids to see their family on Christmas!
That was actually one of the very first thoughts that popped into my head when exH and I initially discussed divorce back in March 09.

I want to give you props because although you were upset (rightfully so!) to hear that your S visited OW's parents' house, you said:

I find that inappropriate on so many levels, but can't control what H does with DS during his time.

This is something many of us mothers have found difficult to accept but ultimately, it is for the best to understand this concept. If we continually dwell on what our ex's are doing with the kids, it causes us more stress and anxiety that we can't do anything about. It ends up putting the kids in the middle as well. I am relieved to hear you came to this realization!