Oh I see what you're saying. I guess in terms of protection for you, if you will be in a bigger financial mess if the divorce goes through, and there is some chance that he's confused and doesn't understand those implications, you do have to be proactive about things and I guess make him understand (or have your lawyer do it) the urgency of "Y will happen if X happens". Maybe one of you can file some sort of delay of things if he is showing signs of being up in the air? I don't know the legal name for it, but something that delays the divorce for 30 days or something?
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
