AntoniaB, this is not the first time for ML. And we have been separated for 2yrs. now. What I meant was for running out of time is the divorce. I don't want H home until he wants to come home if he ever does want to come home. I just don't see any reason to go through losing the house spending all this money on lawyers and for a divorce if he still is undecided (in the fog).
H doesn't comprehend well at all and doesn't realize that if he doesn't put a hold at least by contacting his lawyer on the divorce that it will go through. And to be honest with you, like most people on this board I don't want a divorce.
I've been standing for over 2yrs. and H hasn't had OW, his family is the big problem. I guess he told them lies about me so he didn't look like the bad guy for leaving, and now he seems to regret it and doesn't know how to get out of the mess he made between me and his family.
Maybe I'm totally wrong, I don't know. But what I do know, is I don't want a divorce at all. We are both in a financial mess now because of all of this, and it keeps getting worse. If the divorce goes through I will be even in a bigger mess.
That's why I don't know what to do as far as contacting H about the letter I received or not as far as a proposal that my lawyer wants and needs me to make. Or do I wait for H to contact me then bring it up? I'm really confused, especially how things went this past week with H. We didn't ML on Sat. night, just spent a little time together.
I do understand what you are saying as far as spending Wed. night with him because I did that in March. Thought things were going to change and we would start to reconcile. But nope. This time was different, it was the first time he told his family about us being together. I'm wondering if he is trying to make it so they won't be upset with him if we do try again. He would have never told them anything unless he was at least thinking about us again.
There would be no reason to tell them as far as he was concerned.
