Apparently OW has told her H about the A. Did your neighbor tell him that your H had moved away?
Some people would say to work with him to put pressure on your H and his W. But my question is this; do you want your H to come back home for any reason other than he wants to be with you and nobody else? Do you want him to end the A b/c he fears for his life? Do you want him to return only b/c OW ended the A? Or do you want him to return b/c he knows he will never love any woman the way he loves you?
I guess there are some who value themselves so little that they would take the WAH back for whatever the reason. I just don't personally think it would last unless he goes back for the right one. Pressure just doesn't seem very attractive, but that's just me.
You don't know OW's H,do you? He may not be an individual you would want to get involved with, right? Something stopped him from going to your house last night. You would have been scared to death if some irrate man came banging on your door demanding information.
As for "warning" your H, what do you want to do? Do you feel that you need to warn him that he may be facing the consquences of his A with a M woman? Maybe I'm cold hearted but I wouldn't help him with this b/c he should have considered the risks. You aren't his mother. And furthermore, I would not offer him safe haven, either. But, that's just me.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
