And, how do you respond to hear when she's exhibiting aggressive behaviors like this, CL?
Last night I refused to agree with things she said that I thought were not true. I've been holding my ground, as I don't believe I did anything wrong the night my car broke down and we missed the studio's event. When it became clear the conversation was not going to be constructive, I went to bed.
I'll need a plan. I would say I should not be reactive and try to find a way to make her happy--that somehow if I cleaned enough, or shovelled the drive more thoroughly, she would be happy. I can be open to problem-solving with her. If there is something I can do to help manage her stress, I will. whe I ask what I can do to help her job-hunt, I get I don't know. The answer to your question is to speak to her when it's constructive, avoid her if we're wasting time, be willing to problem-solve with her when the opportunity is there, and continue to participate with her in recreational activities. In other words, don't stay too long with her drama when it's not constructive.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
