It sounds to me as if your family wants you to join them mostly for them. They are worried about you and want to do something to help and support you, yes, but they also feel guilty about you being alone, and they want to make sure, in person, that you are alright. Can you call some of your family members individually to touch base over the holiday week just to chat? Can you make a quick call sometime during the "big" event to wish them a good time?
That said, I do worry a little that you are hiding from the holiday pain rather than facing it and working through it. Only you know whether that is true, and what you handle at this time.
M 65 H 64 T 39 & M 36 @ S 12/08 Two Ds
Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man
