wife preparing to leave me and kids

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No I was not pressuring just asked if we needed to talk about anything and she spiralled. I responded to everything calmly acknowledging her statements. Trying to do the validating I did also defend myself when she went a little to far. I was not mean. I told her I can get through all this that has happened but for the first time I set a boundary and said but I cannot deal with you remaining in contact with him through whatever means in this house and be able to work through that.
She has been saying she wants out now for 3 months. She could easily go rent. Instead she is trying to buy I have straight out told her I am not trying to stop her. She eliminates recovery from the equation because the A will always be the she says she is nothing special, she says I deserve someone better, for the first time in her life she is happier at work, she now wants to tell parents inlaws about the A. But she says she is done with everyone. She wants to move away. She doesn't want to rely on anyone. Is this fog talk.