Had to start a new thread. Quick recap on situation, wife of 19 years gave me the I no longer have feelings for you speech November 2009. Spent the last year working on improving myself as a person, father and husband. Made alot of progress on improving myself but was not making any progress on rebuilding the relationship and found out my wife was having an EA.
I confronted her about it and advised that if she wanted a Divorce I would help her work through it, if not then we needed to focus on our marriage and family.
Currently waiting for her to make her decision. Interesting times to say the least. Had an interesting day with my wife yesterday. She wanted to cleanup things around the house re kids clothes and things in storage etc, something that she has been wanting to do for about 2 years. During the course of going through things she kept making comments like we can just buy a new one if we decide to go on a trip, we should keep that in case we ever have grandchildren, or I am going to work on going through that stuff next year. We actually had fun doing it and at one point she actually let down her emotional wall and joked with me about how I wasn't being much of a help with a particular task. Something she hasn't done in over a year. Left me with a small bit of hope that she may elect to stay.
Today was a different feel as she seemed depressed and down in the dumps. I didn't want to ask her what the issue was but it maybe the result of having to end her EA. Of course I am only guessing but I don't think she would be depressed if her decision was to go and be with the OM. I am not trying to read too much into her actions etc, just taking things day to day.
